The romantic landscape has become a complicated world to navigate. Where does one find love these days? On Tinder? Happn? Coffee Meets Bagel? Ok Cupid? Grindr? And when you get there, do you swipe left? Swipe right? Up or down? Is a selfie profile pic okay or is it a bad sign? Can you trust a guy named Biff, who owns a pet bulldog named Bruzer, whose hobbies include poetry and CrossFit?
According to Forest Gump, “ My momma always said life is like a box of chocolates, you never know what you’re gonna get.” Well, apologies for sounding contrarian Mrs. Gump but there’s quite a lot of evidence now, to prove the wide ranging mental, physical and even sexual benefits of chocolate. Then again it wasn’t that kind of movie.
Every surfer has seen Jaws. At some point they’ve all hummed the theme tune as they paddled out into the waves, only half in jest. You see, amongst these swell hunters there’s a genuine respect for the ocean and it’s apex predator; but then few ever really encounter a large shark in a feeding frenzy. Bethany Hamilton was no different. Until the day her world changed.
The festive season has ended and you wake up feeling like Cinderella post-ball, staring at your reflection and thinking, “I need to make some wholesale changes.” This is of course a natural reaction to a month of excessive food, drink and conversations. Unfortunately most of us tend to overreact by drawing up daunting lists filled with unrealistic, vague goals, that we hope to achieve by yesterday. Yet research has consistently shown that only a small percentage of people actually follow through on their resolutions, precisely because they go about it all wrong.
Music is a powerful positive force for good. It can change the mood of everything. It can lift your spirits to previously unvisited heights. It can even help us go to sleep or alternatively inspire us to dance until the small hours of the morning.
The holidays are upon us. A time to relax, unwind and catch your breath. An opportunity to reflect on the year that’s been and to mentally prepare for the challenges to come. *Ding Dong* “Who’s there?” Oh, you forgot; your sister-in-law, her dopey husband and their 2 lactose intolerant kids are here for the holidays. Your much-needed end of year break just turned into the nightmare before Christmas.
Houseguests are almost always an inconvenience. There’s just never a good time. No matter how much you may get along, there’s a reason we don’t all move into a commune with our friends and family.
Never fear, we’ve got you covered. Below are five helpful tips to get you through.
Prepare A Room They’ll Want To Live In
Give them the nicest room in the house. Hell, give them your room if you have to. Create a place they’ll want to retreat to – that’ll leave the rest of the house free for you. Also, it’s most likely that they’ll be feeling exactly like you on some level. Create escape hatches for everyone and everyone wins.
Be Knowledgeable About Your City & Surrounds
Being able to casually recommend fun activities that’ll get people out of the house will help you no end. Remember, every suggestion should be paired with a good reason why you can’t go along.
Break Your Day In Two
Break your day into distinct halves. You’ll refer to them as the morning and the afternoon, but what they should be called is ‘time for me’ and ‘time for us’. You can alternate, but making sure at least half of the day is spent having the break you want will make it easier for you to enthusiastically engage with your guests the other 50% of the time.
Ask For Help
One of the most annoying things about houseguests is having to clean up after them. Truth is most guests don’t help out because most hosts don’t let them. If help is offered, accept it. It’s a simple thing that can make the world of difference. And, if they don’t like helping, the upshot is they’re unlikely to visit again.
Suck It Up
Chances are, if you’ve said ‘yes’ to them staying, they probably mean a lot to someone who means a lot to you. So, grinning and bearing it will bare fruits at a later stage – albeit indirectly. And, remember; nobody likes a Grinch.
Running has long been a popular way to get some fresh air, relax and take your mind of your daily stresses while also getting in some much needed exercise. But, it seems to have exploded over the past ten years. Ever-increasing numbers are registering for marathons, half marathons, 10k’s and fun runs across the globe, while the popularity of trail running is gathering momentum at the pace of Ryan Sandes (one of endurance trail running’s superstars).
Not happy to just run distances most people can’t drive in one sitting, endurance runners are taking things to the next level with Skyrunning.
Skyrunning is defined as high mountain running – sounds simple enough. Except that to qualify as an official event the trail needs to be at least 2000feet above sea level and have an average incline of 30degrees!
While it’s clearly not for everyone, one can only imagine that Skyrunners are getting off on some kind of natural high, high up in the sky!
Clearly altitude endurance is a long-term goal, so perhaps you should start with something a little easier on the lungs and a lot easier on the eye. Below is a list of some of the worlds most scenic trail runs to get you started.
Imogen Pass Run, USA
Mont Blanc, France
Table Mountain, South Africa
Mount Fuji, Japan
Whistler Black Comb, Canada
Sometimes, all you need is a good hug to make everything better. There’s something about this simple unspoken act that can turn a mood around. Maybe it’s closeness or the physical expression of empathy. Either way knowing that someone is in your corner gives one enough positive energy to turn a situation around.
This simple insight is the inspiration behind the global phenomenon of the Free Hugs Movement. Started in 2004 by an Australian who uses the pseudonym, Juan Mann.
That year, after experiencing personal difficulties, Juan was forced to move back to his native Sydney. When he got there he realized how few people he knew when he was growing up were still there; Mann felt like a stranger in his own hometown.
Feeling isolated and lonely, Mann quickly fell into a depression. But, all that changed one evening in an instant. While attending a party, a complete stranger walked up to him and gave him a hug. Mann says of that moment, “I felt like a King. It was the greatest thing that ever happened.”
This epiphany inspired Mann to make his now infamous cardboard sign that displayed the message; ‘Free Hugs’.
He first took his Free Hugs sign to the Pitt Street Mall in Sydney on the 30th of June, 2004. For fifteen minutes people walked passed him as if he wasn’t there. He got the occasional second look, but nobody was prepared to take him up on his offer. Finally, an old lady came up to him and gave him a hug.
Mann retells the moment the Free Hugs movement took flight; “The first person who stopped, tapped me on the shoulder and told me how her dog had just died that morning. How that morning had been the one-year anniversary of her only daughter dying in a car accident. How what she needed now, when she felt most alone in the world, was a hug. I got down on one knee, we put our arms around each other and when we parted, she was smiling.”
Since that first hug, Juan Mann has founded the Free Hugs Movement and inspired people to adopt his action around the world, handing out hugs to strangers in public places.
Shortly after that he befriended the lead singer of a local band who made a music video featuring Mann and his fellow huggers giving out hugs; to date the video has been viewed nearly 75million times! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vr3x_RRJdd4
He quickly gained notoriety and was invited to appear on the Oprah Winfrey Show in 2006.
So, when you’re feeling down, now you know there’s a simple way to turn it around; just ask someone for a hug. It’s true what they say, the best things in life really are free.
These days, more and more people are turning their backs on the crazy nine to whenever of the modern world. This choice to live ‘off the grid’ is really about a return to simpler things; more experiences and less material concerns. A case in point is the story of Noelle Hancock.
In 2010 Noelle Hancock was living in the East Village on Manhattan Island, working as a journalist and earning a near six-figure salary. An outsider would be forgiven for thinking she was living the American Dream.
But, the pace of life in New York is frantic, competitive – even cutthroat. It’s easy to feel like you’re the proverbial hamster on the wheel. Hancock found that in this bustle she wasn’t finding time to see friends or family or even have a boyfriend; with over 4million people on the island, she still felt lonely.
She found herself repeatedly saying out loud; “I need a vacation.” But then she remembered reading somewhere that if you’re constantly thinking you need a vacation, maybe you really need a new life.
Of course, her friends and family (the people she hadn’t seen for months) thought she’d lost her mind; “You can’t just move to a place you’ve never even visited!” her mom protested.
But, she stayed resolute and six weeks later, stepped off the ferry in Cruz Bay, the main town on St. John. Within a few days she’d found a place to live and taken a job at the local ice cream parlor.
“But, but … you went to Yale,” her mother sputtered.”
Noelle understands the skepticism. But, its hard to argue with her logic either, especially when you consider that she lives in an apartment with a sea view on an island just North of the Caribbean Sea and gets to eat as much ice-cream as she wants!
It seems that being positive, happy and healthy is all you really need. Maybe Noelle Hancock has found the real answer to what a positive lifestyle can be.
There’s an old saying; everyone needs a hobby. Hobbies help develop your tastes and your passions in life and help you relax and refocus. They also play a crucial social role in allowing people to find like-minded individuals and congregate around a common interest; this is often how friendships are born and nurtured.