Being a worrier is tricky. Worry too much and it consumes you. Worry too little and you may not take the necessary action to avoid the issue.
Imagine you’re due to give a big speech or presentation, but you’re afraid of public speaking. Your speech is due in two weeks and you spend so much time fearing the concept of standing up in front of people that you don’t focus on the task at hand – writing and preparing for the actual speech.
The night before the big day you finally sit down, put your speech together and are fairly happy with the result but wish you could have had more time to really perfect it. Your sleep that night is less than relaxing since you’re waking up every hour with a knot in your stomach.
The next morning, tired and anxious, you do nothing but obsess about the coming hour. And then before you know it, you’re finished. You’re shattered, emotionally wiped out and insecure about how it was received.
This two-week period of anxiety could have been easily avoided by constructively managing your worries. Creating a worry period during the day allows you to spend the rest of the day being productive and giving your concerns your full attention.
It’s important to acknowledge that some worries are legitimate, but many are not. Worrying about the uncontrollable issues will do nothing but paralyse you. Focus on what you can do something about. If you have financial worries, start brainstorming. Once you start formulating a plan, you will literally feel the weight start easing off your very heavy shoulders.
We know that this is easier said than done. So, if you classify yourself as a ‘chronic worrier’, practise this exercise – think of a very low time in your life. Now think, you made it through – didn’t you? You see, all of us are stronger than we think. But we need sleep to be strong. We need time to sit, breathe and revaluate our worries. If we let them, our worries will consume us.